Elfin girl online wishes A Happy new year 2019 to all my loving readers specially to SAHM (another word for stay at home mom).This blog is all about SAHM. Should i be a stay at home mom? and if yes what will be the benefits of being a stay at home mom?
The spirit of New Year is not just reminiscing about the past but also looking forward to the times ahead with the promise of love, unconditional support and tons and tons of happiness. For all of us New Year brings new dreams, new ideas, and new hopes and of course courage to overcome all the challenges.
But I am women, 36 yrs. OLD, Married and top of that mother of two handsome little boys. Do I have a freedom to dream, to steal time from my house chores for thinking on new ideas, to have hope and desire for a particular thing to happen and of course will it be ok if I still behave as brave, aggressive, bold women to fight with challenges? (I am still thinking).
For me life was a roller coaster, I left my childhood friends, my neighbors, my home, my city my family because as per Indian society a girl has to leave everything behind, the day she gets married. I left my work city Delhi which actually gave me an identity because I was a wife now and as per society (again) a wife has to move, to be with his man. I didn’t get the transfer in my existing job so started a new job again from scratch in a new city. After 10yrs long professional journey with MNC’s in Delhi as well as Mumbai abort my career on a blue night in midway because I was a new mum at that time. I still remember the time as i was in dilemma- should i be a stay at home mom or not?
But later, when ever I tried to climb every time, so-called priorities drilled into my head by the society (why you are running for money so much. Your children should be your first priority) and put me down on my knees.
Now my question today is not from others but from myself that how long I would be able to do that,how to survive being a stay at home mom, how long I would blink my eyes to put back my tears. When will be the time when I will put myself on priority and I will not be called selfish or self-centered Mum? Will it be a sin to take me as a woman first? If I am working to chase my own dreams does that mean I will not give my children a better upbringing or I will not remain that loving and caring better half for my partner?
I really don’t know the answers, whether I am on a correct path or not don’t know. But I will try from the core of my heart to change this stereotype thought of society of being a new mum and still working? To this, I will first start by me, because if, I cannot change my thought, I cannot be greedy for my dreams there is no point to feel bad about anyone or about any situation.
I will work on night after my little baby (just 3 months old) goes to sleep; will sit down to work early morning during the baby’s nap; will steal 20 minutes for emails while my children will be busy in school or playing with toys on the floor next to my desk, will talk with the people on phone to expand my work with the baby on my hip and I also promise u all I will leave no stone unturned to make my children a better person for the society.
I am sure I am not the only one here; there would be so so so many women who have crossed this phase and few are still in the muddle and trying to come out by any means and must be thinking every night before going to sleep “what to do after being a stay at home mom?”To them I would say-There are so many things to do when your a stay at home mom. – just a baby step is all you need to start from within that could be blogging like me,Photography,baking whatever u love just do it.
As a girl, as a married woman, as a wife or as a mother we are not asking for wings to fly high, not asking for the night out to chill, not asking for high-end makeup to look beautiful. Sometimes we just want to live the way we love, let us allow to prioritize things by ourselves not by the voting of society. Let us allow not being fake but being real with ourselves.
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What are some of your goals and things you want to add to 2019? I would love, love, love to hear.
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